A woman who suf*ered 18 m!scariages after her own body re*ected her pregnancies had revealed her joy at finally achieving her dream of becoming a mother at 48. Louise Warneford and her husband, Mark, 55, from Swindon, end-ured countless rounds of IVF – costing around £80,000 – over 16 years before a specialist finally found the reason behind her m!scar-riages.
After coming close to giving up in 2010, the couple agreed to have one final try after a doctor told them a donor em-bryo might be successful, and Louise gave birth to a healthy baby boy, William, at 37 weeks.The bre*kthrough came in 2015 – when doctors identified that she had ‘ki*ler cells’ which meant her own body was des*roying her em-bryos.Although Louise and Mark say people sometimes mistake the couple for baby William’s grandparents, they are over-the-moon to finally have a child of their own.
Louise explains: ‘Mark and I had been trying for a baby since I was 32. We’d suf*ered 18 m!scar-riages and spent £80,000 but looking at William now, it was all worth it.’I’m not the spring chicken that I used to be and it does take me a while to chase him around the floor but it’s worth it.’The couple first met in 1999 and Louise immediately knew that Mark was ‘the one’ that she wanted to start a family with.
However, due to Mark’s vase-ctomy from a previous relationship, the pair had to look for alternative ways to make Louise’s dream of having a baby a reality.She says: ‘We went to a fert!lity specialist to find out about the quickest way of conceiving, and they suggested a spe*m insem-ination.’So we found a donor who had the same attributes as Mark and I, and we went along with the process.’
‘I fell pregnant a number of times with the insem!nation, but every single time I ended up losing the baby around the 14-week scan mark as they couldn’t find the heartb-eat.’Each time I got my hopes up and thought that “this was it” and I was going to have the perfect family I’d always wanted – I couldn’t stop crying every time I m!scar-ried.’We decided to try IVF but despite falling pregnant a number of times, we always lost the baby.
‘It was a complete mystery why my body kept reje-cting my baby at just a few weeks old but it was heart-bre*king every single time.Louise gave up on her dream in 2010, unable to face any more attempts.She says: ‘There is no grief that can compare to losing a much loved and wanted baby – all your hopes and dreams are sha-ttered.’We’d even tried using an egg donor but that fa!led as well.’
However, determined to find out what was wrong with her body for peace of mind, Louise decided to find a clinic who could finally d!agn-ose her fert!lity problem.Louise said: ‘I met a specialist in maternal medicine called Doctor Shehata and he told me that I had k!ll-er cells in my body, which was why I couldn’t hold a child.’I told him I’d had 18 m!sca-rriages and that I couldn’t go through that again but he gave me the courage to have one more try.
‘I didn’t do anything until four years later, when I was 47 and I said to Mark that we had to try one more time before I was 50.’This time, because I was too old for certain clinics in the UK, I decided to do my own research and had em-bryo donation in the Gynem Clinic in Pra-gue.The couple finally got pregnant when Louise was 47 and, despite a nerve-wre-nching nine months, their son William was born healthy.
‘He was born at 37 weeks through a planned C-section because I was told that there was a problem with the placenta.’Although I couldn’t enjoy my pregnancy, because I was constantly sc-ared that I was going to lose him, it was completely worth it for my dream baby.’Louise is now sharing her story to provide help for anyone facing a similar situation to her and to raise discussion about m!scar-riages.
Louise said: ‘It was the toughest time in my life, but it’s so worth it for our dream baby.’We’re a perfect family now and I finally feel complete – we even have a grandchild now, and at just ten months old, William, became an uncle.’It was very expensive, and we spent £80,000 in total for fert!lity treatment, but we just put our life on hold for our dream baby.’We saved the money over the 16 years of trying, and just didn’t go out very often – we were very fr-ugal, but we wanted a child more than we wanted money.
‘We want people to know that it is doable and despite my multiple m!scar-riages and rounds of IVF, our dream baby was achievable.’Mr Hassan Shehata, Founder and Director of Centre for Reproductive Immunology and Pregnancy, said: ‘Natural k!ll-er (NK) cells are subtypes of white bl**d cells which are responsible for body de*ence.’The NK cells are known to at*ack fore!gn bodies such as v!r*ses independently and directly hence the name natural k!ll-er cells.’In some women these NK cells can wrongly identify pregnancy as a foreign th*eat and a*tack it ca*sing a m!scar-riage.’In Louise’s case, she was a brave young lady who persevered with the unusually high number of m!scar-riages where she and her partner have faced several fa!lures and heart-aching outcomes. ‘However, I recall she was quite determined to succeed and I thought both her and her partner deserve a chance to be parents. I was very pleased to have managed to help them succeed and be part of such an incredible journey.
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